How to Talk to Strangers?如何與陌生人交談？

Be brave， worry less

多一點勇敢，少一點擔(dān)憂

Dont be afraid to talk to someone who seems different from you. When you have to talk with someone different from you， you just think it can be the most enlightening and interesting experience. Even if its uncomfortable， be brave and just do it.

不要害怕與你不同的人交談。當(dāng)你不得不和與你不同的人交談時，你就想這可能是一次最具啟發(fā)性和趣味性的經(jīng)歷。即便這件事令你感到不自在，也要鼓起勇氣，只管去做。

Be curious

保持好奇

Ask questions. Is the person wearing an article of clothing thats noteworthy？ Why did they decide to come to this event？ Research actually suggests that people who ask more questions are better liked by their conversation partners than people who ask fewer questions. A question can either kick off a conversation or keep it going.

多問問題。那人是否穿了一件吸引人眼球的衣服？他們?yōu)楹螞Q定參加這場活動？事實上，研究表明，相較于提問較少的人，提出較多問題的人更受談話對象的青睞。問題要么可以開啟一場對話，要么能夠讓對話繼續(xù)下去。

Skip the stock questions

避開老套的問題

Skip the stock questions， and ask a question that will make your conversation partner think， which is engaging. Or start with a statement： “This painting really confuses me.” or “I cant believe how crowded the train is today.” And whether youre asking a question， replying， or making a statement， be authentic. People want to get the real you so they can express the real them.

避開老套的問題，提出一個能讓談話對象思考的有趣的問題?；蛘吣阋部梢杂靡痪浔響B(tài)開啟對話：“這幅畫真讓我摸不著頭腦?！被蛘撸骸罢娌桓蚁嘈沤裉旎疖嚿线@么擁擠?！睙o論你是在問問題、回答問題，還是表明態(tài)度，都要展現(xiàn)真實的自我。人們想要了解真實的你，這樣他們才能表達真實的自己。

Give someone a compliment

給予對方贊美

It shifts the focus to the other person and should make him feel good. When we have conversations with people we dont know， we tend to overthink what were doing wrong or what we could do wrong. Focusing the attention on the other person in those moments can help us get past those awkward spots.

這樣做能夠?qū)⒔裹c轉(zhuǎn)移到對方身上，也能令對方心情愉悅。和不認(rèn)識的人交談時，我們常常會在我們做錯了什么或我們可能做錯什么上過度思考。此時，將注意力集中在對方身上可以幫助我們擺脫這些令人尷尬的境地。

Talk about something you have in common

談?wù)勀銈兊墓餐c

At the very least， youre in the same place and experiencing the same weather. But dont be afraid to dig deeper and find more interesting commonalities： Maybe youre from the same place， maybe you have a mutual friend， maybe you have a shared hobby， or maybe you work in similar roles.

至少，此刻你們身處同一個地方，感受著同樣的天氣。不過，要勇敢地去深入了解對方，尋找你們之間更多有趣的共同點：或許你們來自同一個地方，或許你們擁有共同的朋友，或許你們有著共同的愛好，又或許你們從事著相似的工作。

Word Bank

noteworthy /'n??tw???i/ adj. 值得注意的;顯著的

I found nothing particularly noteworthy to report.

kick off 開始（事件或比賽等）

The shows kick off on October 24th.

skip /sk?p/ v. 跳過;漏過

You can skip the next chapter if you have covered the topic in class.

authentic /??'θent?k/ adj. 真實的;真正的

She has authentic charm whereas most people simply have nice manners.

mutual /'mju?t?u?l/ adj. 共有的;共同的

They soon discovered a mutual interest in music.