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成長(zhǎng)中的快樂與煩惱，我們?cè)竿改阜窒恚麄冇肋h(yuǎn)是我們躲避風(fēng)浪的港灣。你從心里感激父母創(chuàng)造并呵護(hù)了你，他們讓你無(wú)憂無(wú)慮地享受生活?？墒?，有時(shí)你也會(huì)對(duì)父母的所作所為感到不理解，甚至?xí)购匏麄?。這樣的時(shí)候我們?cè)撛趺崔k呢？

Sometimes kids don’t think their parents are fair to them.When you want to dress in a modern way，your mum doesn’t like you to wear a mini-skirt.When you are making phone calls to friends，they ask if you are speaking to a boy or a girl.

Sometimes it seems that you’re not as close to your parents as before.And sometimes you have nothing to say with them.How can you become close again?Closing the Gap by American writer Jay McGraw gives advice on how to have a better relationship with your parents.

The book gives ways to help teens understand their parents.When you think“My parents don’t want me to have any fun”，that usually means your parents want you to be safe.They are afraid that you will do something wrong outside your home.Both parents and children have needs.They need to feel they are important and loved. You should tell your parents your needs，and find out what their needs are.Then you can think of a way to make all of you happy.The book gives you some ideas:

1.Make time to talk.You could talk about your school life or your plans for the future.

2.Keep a dairy.This is to help you understand more about yourself and your feelings.

3.Show your parents you are growing up.Wash your own clothes and help clean the house.Your parents will feel that you are no longer a small child.

If you follow these steps，gradually，you will be able to break down the walls between your parents and yourself.

如何與父母更親近

有時(shí)，孩子們會(huì)覺得父母對(duì)他們不公平。當(dāng)你想穿得時(shí)髦一些時(shí)，你母親不喜歡你穿超短裙。當(dāng)你和朋友打電話時(shí)，他們會(huì)問，和你通話的是男孩還是女孩。

有時(shí)，你似乎不像以前那樣和父母親近；有時(shí)，你和他們無(wú)話可說。那么，怎樣才能和父母重新親密起來呢？美國(guó)一位作家Jay McGraw寫了一本叫《消除隔閡》的書，該書就怎樣和父母融洽關(guān)系給出了建議。

這本書給出了一些方法，幫助青少年理解自己的父母。當(dāng)你認(rèn)為 “父母不想讓我去玩”時(shí)，父母的意思通常是想要你安全一些。他們擔(dān)心你在外面會(huì)闖下什么禍。父母和孩子都有自己的需求，雙方都需要感覺到自己的重要和被人疼愛。你應(yīng)該告訴父母你的需求，然后發(fā)現(xiàn)父母的需要是什么。然后你就能找到一種使大家都能快樂的好方法。書中談了一些作者的想法：

1.抽出時(shí)間和父母談話。你可以和他們講你的校園生活，或者你對(duì)未來的打算。

2.堅(jiān)持記日記。這能更好地幫助你了解自己的情感。

3.讓父母知道你正在長(zhǎng)大。自己洗衣服，幫忙打掃屋子。父母將會(huì)感到你真的已不是小孩子了。

如果你照著這幾個(gè)步驟去做，你將會(huì)漸漸地打破你和父母之間的那堵墻。

Task for you:

1. The writing mainly tells us that .

A. it’s important to find your and your parents’ needs and then think ofa way to be happy

B. it’s hard to break down the walls between your parents and yourself

C. your parents don’t like you to wear mini-skirts

2. Closing the Gap is a book.

A. on how to make friends with your classmates

B. on how to have a better relationship with your parents

C. on how to study well

3. Which of the following will help you to get close with your parents?

A. You often talk with parents and keep a dairy.

B. You try to show your parents you are growing up.

C. Both A and B.

Kesy: 1.A2.B 3.C