我想告訴年輕時的自己

李子沐

Looking back at my younger years， I amsometimes amazed at how life has turned out.Nothing? is? exactly? what? I? had? originallyplanned for. The only thing that stays the sameis who I am， my values， and my interests. If Icould? go back in time? and hang? out with myyounger self for a day， heres what I would tellher.

1. Everything happens for a reason.

Without? mistakes? and? failure，? you? wouldnever? have? learned. Without? pain，? you? wouldnever have grown. Once you understand this，you? will? know? that? everything? comes? in? toserve a purpose. So dont stress or think thatlife is unfair， because everything happens for areason. And? only? time? will? tell? what? it? willteach us.

2. Focus on one thing at a time. You canhave it all but not all at once.

It is not surprising that many of us are do-ing too many things at once. We need to makeends meet. But if you are working three jobs ata time， it is not likely that you will succeed atany of them. You have to keep your eyes on thebig picture. You have to ask yourself what ex-actly? do you want to? achieve? for the next 10years？ Focus on one thing? at a time. Achieveyour goals one by one.

3. You? can? plan? ahead，? but? your? planwill definitely change when the time comes.

You? can? plan? ahead? because? sometimes

回首年輕的時候，有時我會驚訝于生活的變遷。一切都不是我最初計劃的樣子，唯一不變的是我自己、我的價值觀和我的興趣。如果我能回到過去和年輕時的自己漫步一整天，下面就是我要對自己說的。

1.一切事情都有原因。

要是沒有錯誤和失敗，你就不會學(xué)到東西；要是沒有痛苦，你就不會長大。一旦你明白了這些，你就知道了一切事情都是為了某種目的而發(fā)生。所以不要緊張或者認(rèn)為生活不公平，因為一切事情都有原因，只有時間能訴說教會了我們什么。

2.一次只關(guān)注一件事。你將會擁有一切，但不能一次就全部實現(xiàn)。

我們中有很多人會同時做超多事情，這并不奇怪，我們需要養(yǎng)家糊口。但如果你同時做 3 份工作，每份工作你都不可能做好。你要著眼于大局，問問自己未來10年究竟想要達(dá)到什么目標(biāo)。一次只做一件事，讓目標(biāo)一個接一個實現(xiàn)。

3.你可以提前計劃，但計劃沒有變化快。

你可以提前做好計劃，因為有時提前做

planning ahead can give you a clearer direction of where you want to go. However， plans will almost always change， so be prepared！

4. Trust your instincts.

Dont? worry? too? much? about? a? decision you have to make. Just do what feels right. You know what you want. You might consult other people. But? deep? down，? you? know? what? you want. Do? what? makes? you? happy. Because? at the? end? of the? day，? even? if you? follow? logic， you will want to quit and follow your heart.

5. Its? okay? to? be? unsure? about? your purpose in life.

You might be graduating or have hit a turn- ing point with your career. You might feel a bit lost and unsure of where to go. Its okay. Go out? there? and? try? as? many? different? things? as you can. Dont ever feel like youre wasting your time. Enjoy the journey. Dont rush. Ev- ery? little? path? will? lead? you? somewhere. And looking back， you will be able to connect the dots. It will all make sense.

6. Dont try too hard with people.

Dont worry if you feel like its hard to make new? friends. Just be yourself and be? as open as you can. It might take a while until you find new best friends and a mate for life， but when you do， you will know it. Its not hard work. So， just do your thing and be yourself.

7. Take of leap of faith in yourself.

Youve got nothing to lose but everything to gain. If you fail， youll become smarter; Ifyou succeed， youll gain even more self- confi- dence and the emotional and financial rewards. See life? as? a progressive journey. And youll most? certainly? achieve? anything? you? set? your mind to.

計劃能讓你更加明確自己前進的方向。然而計劃總是會變，所以你要有心理準(zhǔn)備！

4.相信自己的直覺。

做決定時不要過于擔(dān)心，就做你認(rèn)為對的事，你知道自己想要什么。你可能要咨詢他人，但內(nèi)心深處你知道自己想要什么。做讓你開心的事，因為到最后，即使你的決定符合邏輯也會想放棄，然后追隨你的心。

5.生活目標(biāo)不明確也沒關(guān)系。

你可能正面臨畢業(yè)或事業(yè)遇到轉(zhuǎn)折點，你可能會感覺有點迷失、找不到方向，沒關(guān)系，走出去盡可能多嘗試不同的事情。不要覺著自己是在浪費時間。享受過程，不要著急，每條路都會把你帶向遠(yuǎn)方?；厥讜r你就能把點點滴滴聯(lián)系在一起，發(fā)現(xiàn)一切都有意義。

6.與人交往不能強求。

如果你感覺很難交到新朋友也不必?fù)?dān)心，只要做好你自己、盡可能真誠就可以。可能需要一段時間你才能找到新的最好的朋友和終生伴侶，但當(dāng)你找到了你就知道，這一點也不難。所以你要做好自己的事、做好你自己。

7.提高自信。

你沒什么可失去的，但你可以贏得一切。如果你失敗了，你會變得更精明；如果你成功了，你會獲得更多自信以及精神和金錢上的回報。把生活看成一個發(fā)展的過程，才最有可能做成你一心想做的事。