接納自己，愛(ài)自己
——生活的智慧

張 潔

（江蘇省天一中學(xué)）

As I Began to Love Myself

As I began to love myself,I found that anguish and emotional sufferings are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.

Today,I know,this is AUTHENTICITY.

As I began to love myself,I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desire on this person,even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it,and even though this person was me.

Today I call it RESPECT.

As I began to love myself,I stopped craving for a different life,and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.

Today I call it MATURITY.

As I began to love myself,I understood that at any circumstance,I am in the right place at the right time,and everything happens at the exactly right moment,so I could be calm.

Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE .

As I began to love myself,I quit stealing my own time,and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.

Today,I only do what brings me joy and happiness,things I love to do and that make my heart cheer,and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.

Today I call it HONESTY.

As I began to love myself,I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health — food,people,things,situations,and everything that drew me down and away from myself.

At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism（自我主義）.

Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.

As I began to love myself,I quit trying to always be right,and ever since I was wrong less of the time.

Today I discover that is MODESTY.

As I began to love myself,I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future.Now,I only live for the moment,where everything is happening.

Today I live each day,day by day,and I call it PERFECTION.

As I began to love myself,I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick.

But as I connected it to my heart,my mind became a valuable ally（盟友）.

Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.

We no longer need to fear arguments,confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others.

Even stars collide,and out of their crashing new worlds are born.

Today I know that is LIFE!

作者及作品背景

查理?卓別林（Charlie Chaplin），1889 年4 月16 日生于英國(guó)倫敦，英國(guó)影視演員、導(dǎo)演、編劇，曾獲英國(guó)電影和電視藝術(shù)學(xué)院獎(jiǎng)終身成就獎(jiǎng)、威尼斯電影節(jié)終身成就金獅獎(jiǎng)、奧斯卡金像獎(jiǎng)榮譽(yù)獎(jiǎng)。這位給我們帶來(lái)無(wú)數(shù)歡笑的偉大喜劇演員一生跌宕起伏，內(nèi)心充滿悲愴。他在54 歲時(shí)與烏娜?奧尼爾結(jié)婚之后，內(nèi)心才慢慢得到了撫慰，生活也漸漸歸于平靜，于70 歲生日當(dāng)天寫(xiě)下了這首散文詩(shī)。本詩(shī)共有十個(gè)小節(jié)，每一小節(jié)都使用相似結(jié)構(gòu)，以As I began to love myself 開(kāi)頭，反思過(guò)往，進(jìn)而闡述一個(gè)道理：要遵循本心，活得真實(shí)；要尊重客觀，尊重自己；要成熟、自信、誠(chéng)實(shí)、謙遜；要注重健康、活在當(dāng)下、啟迪心智、接納不完美的自己。作者通過(guò)自己大半生的生活經(jīng)驗(yàn)和大家分享生活的智慧，呼吁大家接納自己、愛(ài)自己！

全詩(shī)譯文

當(dāng)我真正開(kāi)始愛(ài)自己

當(dāng)我真正開(kāi)始愛(ài)自己，我才認(rèn)識(shí)到，所有的痛苦和情感的折磨，都只是提醒我：活著，不要違背自己的本心。

今天我明白了，這叫做『真實(shí)』。

當(dāng)我真正開(kāi)始愛(ài)自己，我才懂得，把自己的愿望強(qiáng)加于人，是多么無(wú)禮，就算我知道，時(shí)機(jī)并不成熟，那人也還沒(méi)有做好準(zhǔn)備，就算那個(gè)人就是我自己。

今天我明白了，這叫做『尊重』。

當(dāng)我開(kāi)始愛(ài)自己，我不再渴求不同的人生，我知道任何發(fā)生在我身邊的事情，都是對(duì)我成長(zhǎng)的邀請(qǐng)。今天我明白了，這叫做『成熟』。

當(dāng)我開(kāi)始真正愛(ài)自己，我才明白，我其實(shí)一直都在正確的時(shí)間，正確的地方，發(fā)生的一切都恰如其分。由此我得以平靜。

今天我明白了，這叫做『自信』。

當(dāng)我開(kāi)始真正愛(ài)自己，我不再犧牲自己的自由時(shí)間，不再去勾畫(huà)什么宏偉的明天。

今天我只做有趣和快樂(lè)的事，做自己熱愛(ài)的、讓心歡喜的事，用我的方式，以我的節(jié)奏。

今天我明白了，這叫做『?jiǎn)渭儭弧?/p>

當(dāng)我開(kāi)始真正愛(ài)自己，我開(kāi)始遠(yuǎn)離一切不健康的東西。不論是飲食和人物，還是事情和環(huán)境，我遠(yuǎn)離一切讓我遠(yuǎn)離本真的東西。

從前我把這叫做“追求健康的自私自利”。

但今天我明白了，這是『自愛(ài)』。

當(dāng)我開(kāi)始真正愛(ài)自己，我不再總想著要永遠(yuǎn)正確，不犯錯(cuò)誤。

今天我明白了，這叫做『謙遜』。

當(dāng)我開(kāi)始真正愛(ài)自己，我不再繼續(xù)沉溺于過(guò)去，也不再為明天而憂慮。

現(xiàn)在我只活在一切正在發(fā)生的當(dāng)下。

今天，我活在此時(shí)此地，如此日復(fù)一日。這就叫『完美』

當(dāng)我開(kāi)始真正愛(ài)自己，我明白，我的思慮讓我變得貧乏和病態(tài)。

但當(dāng)我喚起了心靈的力量，理智就變成了一個(gè)重要的伙伴。

今天我明白了，這種組合我稱之為『心的智慧』

我們無(wú)須再害怕自己和他人的分歧，矛盾和問(wèn)題。因?yàn)榧词剐切怯袝r(shí)也會(huì)碰在一起，形成新的世界。

今天我明白了，這就是『生命』!

——查理?卓別林寫(xiě)于70 歲生日當(dāng)天

語(yǔ)言積累

authenticity n.真實(shí)性

offend v.冒犯

crave v.渴望

rhythm n.節(jié)奏

confrontation n.對(duì)抗

collide v.碰撞

閱讀小練

1.What does the underlined word“anguish”probably mean?

A.Strong anger. B.Great pain.

C.Endless confusion. D.High spirits.

2.What did the author suggest by mentioning what he called“SELF-CONFIDENCE”?

A.Let things go at its own pace.

B.Bravely face others’comments.

C.Increase confidence in your job.

D.Keep calm in any circumstance.

3.What is the main purpose of this poem?

A.To inspire readers to love themselves.

B.To motivate others to follow his example.

D.To demonstrate the importance of maturity.

C.To introduce his past experiences to readers.

4.How is the article developed?

A.By making comparison.

B.By listing facts and examples.

C.By reflecting and concluding.

D.By arguing and convincing readers.

詞匯運(yùn)用

1.網(wǎng)站發(fā)布的照片的真實(shí)性有待進(jìn)一步考證。

The __________ of the photos _______________by the website remains to be verified.

2.每個(gè)小目標(biāo)的達(dá)成都是我的勝利，而這勝利又驅(qū)使我渴望更多。

Every small goal that I reach is my personal triumph that makes me ________________________.

3.如果太陽(yáng)與月亮相撞，地球會(huì)怎樣？

If the sun were to _________________________the moon,what would become of the earth?

答案和解析

閱讀小練：

1.B。詞義猜測(cè)題。根據(jù)第一小節(jié)中畫(huà)線詞所在句“As I began to love myself,I found that anguish and emotional sufferings are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.”可知，畫(huà)線詞anguish 和emotional sufferings 是并列成分，故可推知，二者表達(dá)的意義同向。B 項(xiàng)Great pain.意為“極大的痛苦”，可與情感苦惱并列。故選B。

2.A。細(xì)節(jié)理解題。根據(jù)第四小節(jié)“As I began to love myself,I understood that at any circumstance,I am in the right place at the right time,and everything happens at the exactly right moment,so I could be calm.”可知，當(dāng)我開(kāi)始愛(ài)自己，我才明白在任何情況下，我都處于正確的地點(diǎn)和正確的時(shí)間，每件事都發(fā)生在恰當(dāng)?shù)臅r(shí)刻，所以我應(yīng)該冷靜。我明白了，這就是自信！由此可推知，一切發(fā)生在我身上的事，都是按照它自己的節(jié)奏發(fā)生的，無(wú)論發(fā)生什么，都要順其自然。故選A。

3.A。推理判斷題。根據(jù)文章的標(biāo)題As I Began to Love Myself 以及每一小節(jié)的第一句和最后一句可推知，作者的寫(xiě)作意圖是呼吁大家都要愛(ài)自己。故選A。

4.C。寫(xiě)作方法題。從文章的結(jié)構(gòu)可以看出，在每一小節(jié)中，作者先回顧自己以前的經(jīng)歷和表現(xiàn)，再進(jìn)行反思和總結(jié)，以此結(jié)構(gòu)組織全詩(shī)。故選C。

詞匯運(yùn)用:

1.authenticity;released

2.crave for more

3.collide with