“樂(lè)園”變“煉獄”

In 2014， the Chinese government announced a proposed system to intervene minors’ guardianship to legally protect minors’ rights and interests. According to the law， parents who do not perform their duties should be deprived of guardianship. At the time， the media and experts all discussed the problem and made it a hot topic whom minors’ custody belonging to. We should find the reason for the abuses of children and parents’ default in China.

2014年，中國(guó)政府宣布擬出臺(tái)未成年人監(jiān)護(hù)干預(yù)制度，從法律層面保護(hù)未成年人權(quán)益不受侵害。而且法律還將規(guī)定，父母失責(zé)將取消監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)。一時(shí)間，各路媒體、專家紛紛探討父母的監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)問(wèn)題，也讓未成年人監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)到底歸誰(shuí)所有，成為熱議話題。究其原因，還得追溯到中國(guó)大地時(shí)常上演的各種虐童和父母失責(zé)的戲碼。

China: endless child abuses

中國(guó)：層出不窮的虐童現(xiàn)象

On November 16th， 2012， five children’s dead bodies were found at street dumpsters in Qi Xingguan District， Bijie City， Guizhou Province. Post-investigation found that they had lived homeless life for a long time， which made the public seethe with indignation.

Also in 2012， a boy aged three and a half years named Lele， in Longgang District， Shenzhen， was wounded by his mother for not being obedient when having a meal， and he was then dead after many days of coma.

In May， 2013， a villager Yang Shihai in Goupi Village， Shichang Town， Jinsha County， Guizhou Province was found to have kept ruthlessly maltreating his ten-year-old biological daughter for five years in the way of cruelly beating， burning her head with boiled water， clamping her hand with pliers， pricking her finger with needles， making her kneel on saw tooth and others.

On June 21st， 2013， two little girls in Jiangning District， Nanjing， were found dead from hunger at home， and they were only one year old and three years old respectively…

2012年11月16日，中國(guó)貴州畢節(jié)市七星關(guān)區(qū)街頭的垃圾箱內(nèi)，驚現(xiàn)5名未成年人的尸體，事后調(diào)查發(fā)現(xiàn)5名孩童生前長(zhǎng)期流浪在外，一時(shí)輿論嘩然。

同樣是在2012年，中國(guó)深圳龍崗區(qū)一名三歲半的男童樂(lè)樂(lè)因?yàn)槌燥垥r(shí)不聽(tīng)話，被母親打傷，昏迷多日后不治身亡。

2013年5月，貴州省金沙縣石場(chǎng)鄉(xiāng)構(gòu)皮村村民楊世海在長(zhǎng)達(dá)5年的時(shí)間里，用毒打、開(kāi)水燙頭、鉗子夾手、針扎手指、跪鋸齒等方式對(duì)10歲的親生女兒進(jìn)行殘忍虐待。

2013年6月21日，南京市江寧區(qū)兩名幼女被發(fā)現(xiàn)餓死家中，兩名女童分別只有1歲和3歲……

Endless “child abuse” cases not only make the world shock， but also expose China’s deficiency in minors’ custody and supervision. It makes people think when a healthy and sunny growing environment for juveniles can really come?

層出不窮的“虐童”案例，讓世人觸目驚心之余，更暴露了中國(guó)在未成年人監(jiān)護(hù)監(jiān)督方面存在的缺失。這也讓世人開(kāi)始思考，未成年人需要的健康、陽(yáng)光的成長(zhǎng)環(huán)境什么時(shí)候才能真正到來(lái)？

In European and American countries， negligent parents deserve severe punishment

歐美國(guó)家：父母失職，懲罰嚴(yán)厲

However， from world reports， this kind of phenomenon does not only exist in China. There are cases of parents’ lack of responsibility in Japan， America， Holland and other countries. According to Child Abuse， an annual investigation report issued by American Government Bureau for Children in 2011， “there were 1537 children dead of maltreatment or overlook in 51 states in America in 2010.” At the same time， Chinese People's Network reported that， “according to statistics， there are about 95 thousand of child abuse complaints in France every year and 20% of them turn out to be true. Over 90% are committed by immediate family members with physical and mental abuses as the main part.

Slightly different from China， most European and American countries have enacted strict punishment mechanism to deal with parents’ negligence of guardianship.

然而，縱觀世界各國(guó)報(bào)道，父母失責(zé)現(xiàn)象絕非中國(guó)僅有。日本、美國(guó)、荷蘭等國(guó)家也有不少父母監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)不到位、責(zé)任缺失的案例。據(jù)美國(guó)政府兒童局2011年發(fā)布的《兒童虐待》年度調(diào)查報(bào)告顯示:“2010年，美國(guó)五十一個(gè)州共有1537名兒童因受到虐待或忽視而死?！蓖瑫r(shí)，據(jù)中國(guó)人民網(wǎng)報(bào)道，“據(jù)統(tǒng)計(jì)，每年法國(guó)約有9.5萬(wàn)虐童投訴，調(diào)查后發(fā)現(xiàn)，其中約20%屬實(shí)。這些案件90%以上是自己家庭直系親屬所為，并以體罰與心理虐待為主?！?/p>

與中國(guó)略微不同的是，目前絕大多數(shù)歐美國(guó)家制定了嚴(yán)格的懲罰機(jī)制，以應(yīng)對(duì)父母監(jiān)護(hù)不到位的問(wèn)題。

In September， 2003， a 25-year-old American mother Turgut hit her four-year-old daughter on impulse， and was stripped of her custody by the American government and sentenced to three years in prison. Also in America， on April 22nd， 2012， an American mother allowed her child to swim alone， since juveniles cannot guarantee their safety when swimming alone; the mother was arrested.

In 2009， an underage Dutch girl Laura Dike decided to sail around the world alone with the support of her parents. The Holland Social Welfare Institute thought that the parents’ agreement lacked of responsibility. For that， Laura was banned to go on the tour and her parents were stripped of custody for two months.

According to the news， in March， 2010， a woman in Osaka， Japan locked her three-year-old daughter and one-year-old son at home. Since she had not left enough food， two kids starved to death when she came back at the end of June. The Japanese court sentenced her to 30 years in prison.

Besides， according to a Hong Kong report， a 33-year-old British widow neglected her children because of addiction to games， and she was sentenced to prison on the charge of child abuse. According to a local TV station in New Zealand， “a father who had just immigrated there was sentenced to six months in prison because he slapped his own child on the street.”

2003年9月，25歲的美國(guó)媽媽圖古特因沖動(dòng)出手打了自己4歲的女兒，隨后被美國(guó)政府剝奪了她的撫養(yǎng)權(quán)，并處以3年的監(jiān)禁。同樣在美國(guó)，2012年4月22日，美國(guó)一位母親應(yīng)允自己的孩子獨(dú)自游泳，因孩童屬于未成年人，獨(dú)自游泳不能保證其安全性，最終這位母親被逮捕。

2009年，荷蘭未成年少女勞拉·戴克在父母支持下，決定獨(dú)自駕船環(huán)游世界。荷蘭社會(huì)福利院認(rèn)為，她父母的贊同是不負(fù)責(zé)任的行為。因此，不僅禁止勞拉出游，還臨時(shí)剝奪了勞拉父母兩個(gè)月的監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)。

根據(jù)媒體消息， 2010年3月，日本大阪女子將3歲的女兒和1歲的兒子鎖在屋內(nèi)，因?yàn)闆](méi)給孩子預(yù)留足夠的食物，等到她6月底再返回住所時(shí)，兩個(gè)孩子已經(jīng)餓死。最終，日本法院判處她30年監(jiān)禁。

此外，據(jù)香港媒體報(bào)道，33歲的英國(guó)寡婦沉迷游戲，疏于照顧未成年子女，最終，這名婦女被判虐待兒童罪而入獄。另?yè)?jù)新西蘭當(dāng)?shù)仉娨暸_(tái)報(bào)道，一位剛移民到此的父親，在街上打了自家孩子一耳光，最后這位父親被法庭判罰6個(gè)月的監(jiān)禁。

All these “chilling” cases not only raise global concern， but also draw the attention of many legal experts and human rights defenders. Problems come one after another. Did the cases happen by accident or inevitably? Were there any deep-seated reasons behind them? How to protect minors’ legal rights and interests and put an end to such kind of tragedies?

這一樁樁“心寒”案例的出現(xiàn)，不僅引起了全球的關(guān)注，也得到了不少法律專家、人權(quán)主義者的重視?？v觀這些案例，究竟是事出偶然還是必然？父母失責(zé)背后有何深層次原因？如何真切保護(hù)未成年人的合法權(quán)益，杜絕諸如此類的悲劇重演?

Did it happen for a reason?

事出有因？

Investigation once found that unintentional injury is the “chief culprit” of the death of children under the age of fourteen. There are more than 1 million children under this age died from unintentional injuries every year and the number is on the rise， which directly exposes parents’ negligence of custody in daily life.

According to an American report in 2010: 36.3% of abusers are at the age from 20 to 29， 31.8% from 30 to 39， and 14.1% from 40 to 49.” What can be seen from the statistics is that the younger the parents are， the less guardianship they may provide. Toennies， a German sociologist once said: “In city life， the relationship among relatives and neighbors are declining day by day. People lack common value and standard that the things they care about are their own interests. Therefore， city life is of egoistic values， people’s relationships falling apart and becoming unscrupulous and selfish.” The saying is more suitable for parents in their early 20s. Many of them just come out the “harbor”， and suddenly are told to face the “cruel reality” of raising the next generation when they themselves expect good life in the future， so they are booked for impatience or even propensity for violence. At the same time， according to Japan Labor Ministry， over 80% of married people under the age of 20 have shotgun marriages. Becoming parents “overnight”， these young people are not ready for this， and are easy to take out of their anger on children as long as life or work does not go well. Besides， parents in countries of traditional family concepts and patriarchal families treat children as their private possession， which can be disposed at will. Some decayed ideas like “A dutiful son comes from beating，” and “Spare the rod， spoil the child” are even popular nowadays， especially among young parents who have not received good education.

曾有調(diào)查顯示，意外傷害是14歲以下兒童死亡的“罪魁禍?zhǔn)住?。全世界每年有超過(guò)100萬(wàn)的14歲以下兒童死于意外傷害，且這一數(shù)據(jù)有增長(zhǎng)趨勢(shì)。這一調(diào)查也直接暴露了全球家長(zhǎng)在日常監(jiān)護(hù)過(guò)程中存在的種種不足。

據(jù)美國(guó)2010年的一份報(bào)告顯示：“36.3%的虐待人年齡在20歲-29歲之間，31.8%的虐待人在30歲-39歲之間，14.1%在40歲-49歲之間?！睆倪@組數(shù)據(jù)可以看出，年紀(jì)越輕，越容易發(fā)生父母監(jiān)護(hù)不到位的現(xiàn)象。德國(guó)社會(huì)學(xué)家騰尼斯曾言:“在城市生活中，親屬關(guān)系、鄰里關(guān)系日漸衰微，人們很少有共同的價(jià)值和規(guī)范，他們關(guān)心的只是自己的私利。因此城市生活的特點(diǎn)就是唯我獨(dú)尊，分崩離析，肆無(wú)忌憚的個(gè)人主義和自私自利。”騰尼斯的這段話在20歲出頭的父母身上可能表現(xiàn)得更為明顯。對(duì)于20歲出頭的父母來(lái)說(shuō)，很多人剛走出“避風(fēng)港”，在心中的美好生活還未到來(lái)時(shí)，卻被突然告知要養(yǎng)育下一代的“殘酷事實(shí)”，難免在養(yǎng)育方面出現(xiàn)不耐心，甚至暴力傾向。同時(shí)，據(jù)日本勞動(dòng)省統(tǒng)計(jì)，在不到20歲的已婚人口里，有80%以上都是奉子成婚?！耙灰埂敝g做父母的年輕人，心里沒(méi)有準(zhǔn)備，只要生活、工作不順利，很容易就把氣撒在孩子身上。此外，在很多受傳統(tǒng)家庭觀念及父權(quán)思想影響的國(guó)家中，父母將子女看作是自己的私有財(cái)產(chǎn)，可以任意處分。甚至，推行“棍棒下出孝子”，“不打不成材”的腐朽觀念，尤其在未接受過(guò)良好教育的年輕父母心中表現(xiàn)尤為明顯。

At present， many professionals and authorities analyze: “Confronted with pressures from work， life and society， parents cannot educate their children in a careful and patient way.” A psychological counselor Zhang Hongyun thinks that economic pressure could be an important reason for inadequate use of guardianship. “Over 90% of people get their jobs in enterprises in Shenzhen. Fast-paced life and great mental stress are easy to cause extreme thoughts and actions，” said Yue Zheng， Dean of Academy of Social Sciences in Shenzhen. Related officials in Korea’s Central Specialized Agency for Child Protection also think that child abuse is easier to happen in low-income families. In 2011 alone， one quarter of child abuses happened in families living on minimum government subsidies. Meanwhile according to Korean Central Daily News， if there are economic difficulties， parents tend to indulge their children， which lead to deficiency of custody. Shen Jie， sociology professor of Japan Women's University said， “The most important reason for the rise of child abuse lies in the stresses brought to the families from long-term economic depression， the accumulation of which makes parents be in a mental state of sudden angry and violence.” It seems that in order to create a bright future for children， it is very important to improve the living conditions of these people.

According to data， since 1970s， America， Britain， Germany and other countries have gradually turned to the principle of “maximization of children’s interests” when dealing with problems related to minor guardianship， but they still cannot put an end to such kind of tragedies. The reason involves poor legal supervision and management and incomplete relief policy. Like China， many countries have some legal provisions related to minors’ custody， but they are far from enough to meet the need for safeguarding their lawful rights and interests. The lack of specific provisions on responsibility investigation leads to ineffective implementation of guardianship system.

目前，還有不少行業(yè)人士和權(quán)力機(jī)構(gòu)就此分析稱，“面對(duì)工作、生活和社會(huì)各方面的壓力，為人父母者并不能細(xì)心、耐心的去教育他們的孩子?！敝袊?guó)心理咨詢師張紅云認(rèn)為經(jīng)濟(jì)壓力可能是父母監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)使用不到位的一個(gè)重要原因?！吧钲?0％以上的人在企業(yè)工作，社會(huì)節(jié)奏快，心理壓力非常大，容易造成精神的極端，采取極端行為?！敝袊?guó)深圳市社會(huì)科學(xué)院院長(zhǎng)樂(lè)正分析。另韓國(guó)中央兒童保護(hù)專門(mén)機(jī)構(gòu)相關(guān)負(fù)責(zé)人也認(rèn)為，低收入家庭更容易發(fā)生虐童案件，僅2011年間，韓國(guó)就有四分之一的虐童現(xiàn)象發(fā)生在領(lǐng)取基本保障金的家庭中。據(jù)韓國(guó)《中央日?qǐng)?bào)》報(bào)道說(shuō)，如果家庭經(jīng)濟(jì)出現(xiàn)困難，家長(zhǎng)放任孩子的次數(shù)就會(huì)增多，很容易導(dǎo)致父母監(jiān)護(hù)不到位現(xiàn)象。同時(shí)，日本女子大學(xué)社會(huì)學(xué)教授沈潔認(rèn)為，“對(duì)于日本家庭虐待孩子案件的增加，最重要的原因還是經(jīng)濟(jì)長(zhǎng)期不景氣給家庭帶來(lái)的種種壓力，這種壓力的累積導(dǎo)致父母親的精神處于易暴易怒的狀態(tài)?！笨磥?lái)，要為未成年孩童撐起一片藍(lán)天，改善這群人的生活條件顯得尤為重要。

據(jù)相關(guān)資料顯示，自20世紀(jì)70年代以來(lái)，美國(guó)、英國(guó)、德國(guó)等國(guó)家在處理未成年子女監(jiān)護(hù)問(wèn)題時(shí)漸漸轉(zhuǎn)向“兒童利益最大化”原則，但仍然無(wú)法徹底杜絕悲劇的發(fā)生。究其原因，有法律監(jiān)管不利，也有救濟(jì)政策不夠完善的因素。還有很多像中國(guó)一樣的國(guó)家，雖有一些法律條文中都涉及到了未成年人監(jiān)護(hù)問(wèn)題，可這還遠(yuǎn)不能滿足保障未成年人合法權(quán)益的需要。由于缺少對(duì)責(zé)任追究環(huán)節(jié)的具體規(guī)定，監(jiān)護(hù)制度并未得到有效的貫徹執(zhí)行。

Barriers to depriving irresponsible parents’ guardianship

剝奪不負(fù)責(zé)任父母監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)的障礙

It is an important move in most countries to protect legitimate rights and interests of minors through stripping the guardianship of parents who do not perform their duties. According to China Phoenix Net， “Currently， the custody revocation system is generally established around the world. When guardianship is abused or there are something going against children’s growth， judicial process can be started to change custody or strip the original one and other guardians can be appointed by the court.”

“For guardians who refuse to fulfill responsibilities and severely hurt the minors， the essence of administrative intervention is to deprive the guardianship through judicial proceeding. It is not to deprive parental right， but to play a deterrent for similar behaviors by setting up a legal bottom line for the minors，” said Zhang Shifeng， Director of Social Affairs Department of Ministry of Civil Affairs. For most of the countries with related laws， the fundamental purpose of stripping guardianship is to protect children， and it only aims at those parents who abuse custody. “Stripping guardianship has to be done， which is the necessity for social development and civilization progress. It can guarantee the maximization of children’s interests and meets the basic requirements of State Law of protection Minors，” said Huang Ermei， Vice-President of Supreme People’s Court.

對(duì)于不能履行監(jiān)護(hù)義務(wù)的父母，剝奪其監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)，這已成為世界上絕大多數(shù)國(guó)家保護(hù)未成年人合法權(quán)益的重要舉措。據(jù)中國(guó)鳳凰網(wǎng)報(bào)道:“目前，世界各國(guó)普遍建立了監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)撤銷制度。當(dāng)監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)被濫用或存在不利于未成年成長(zhǎng)的行為時(shí)，能夠啟動(dòng)司法程序要求變更監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)或剝奪原監(jiān)護(hù)人的監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)，由法院另行指定監(jiān)護(hù)人?！?/p>

“對(duì)拒不履行監(jiān)護(hù)責(zé)任、嚴(yán)重傷害未成年人的監(jiān)護(hù)人，行政干預(yù)的核心就是通過(guò)人民法院提起訴訟剝奪監(jiān)護(hù)人的監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)。這樣做不是為了剝奪親權(quán)，而是通過(guò)為未成年人設(shè)置法律底線，對(duì)類似行為起到震懾作用?！敝袊?guó)民政部社會(huì)事務(wù)司司長(zhǎng)張世峰說(shuō)。在大部分制定法規(guī)的國(guó)家看來(lái)，剝奪失職父母監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)的根本目的是保護(hù)孩子，且只針對(duì)少數(shù)濫用監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)的父母?！皠儕Z某些失責(zé)監(jiān)護(hù)人的監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)，既是不得已而為之，是社會(huì)發(fā)展和文明進(jìn)步的必須，也是確保實(shí)現(xiàn)兒童利益的最大化，更符合國(guó)家未成年保護(hù)法所要達(dá)到的最基本‘底線’”，中國(guó)最高人民法院副院長(zhǎng)黃爾梅指出。

However， finding other suitable guardians is not as easy as stripping guardianship. Even though there are successful experiences in America and other western countries. There are special legislation and institution in America dealing with child abuse. Warmer places are right there waiting for children when their parents lose their custody. But a lot of elements still hold back the move. For example， in China’s Civil Law and Law of protection Minors: Parents and other guardians who do not perform their duties or harm the legitimate rights and interests of minors， and do not change behavior after education， will be disqualified by the court according to the application of related ones or units， and other guardians will be appointed by the court. But in practice， there are barriers both in depriving guardianship and appointing other guardians.

In addition， according to Korean Central Daily News， because of difficult living condition， a Korean boy was abused since one year old by his mother who suffered from postnatal depression. Neighbors reported the situation to Child Protection Agency， and the mother repented. But three years later， the same story happened again. The agency failed to intervene because of the parents’ strong objection.

We are not going to talk about whether it is good or bad to strip guardianship. Maybe we can learn something from the words of Friedrich Frobel， a German educator， “A nation’s fate is more like in the hand of mothers， than in that of power-holders， so we need to inspire mothers-human’s educators.”

然而，剝奪父母監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)容易，重新找合適的監(jiān)護(hù)人并不是易事。雖然美國(guó)等西方國(guó)家有成功經(jīng)驗(yàn)，據(jù)了解，美國(guó)專門(mén)有應(yīng)對(duì)兒童虐待事件的立法和處理機(jī)構(gòu)，父母被剝奪監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)之后，會(huì)有更溫暖的地方等著孩子。但還是有很多原因會(huì)阻止剝奪父母監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)的行動(dòng)。如中國(guó)《民法通則》及《未成年人保護(hù)法》規(guī)定：對(duì)于父母或其他監(jiān)護(hù)人不履行監(jiān)護(hù)職責(zé)或侵害未成年人合法權(quán)益，經(jīng)教育不改的，人民法院可以根據(jù)有關(guān)人員或者有關(guān)單位的申請(qǐng)，撤銷其監(jiān)護(hù)人的資格，依法另行指定監(jiān)護(hù)人。但實(shí)踐中，無(wú)論是撤銷監(jiān)護(hù)人資格還是另行指定監(jiān)護(hù)人都存在一定障礙。

另外，據(jù)韓國(guó)《中央日?qǐng)?bào)》報(bào)道，韓國(guó)一男孩因母親患有產(chǎn)后抑郁癥，且生活困難，從一歲開(kāi)始就受母親的辱罵，鄰居將其向兒童保護(hù)機(jī)構(gòu)舉報(bào)，母親有了悔改，可三年后，該母親再次被舉報(bào)，但因父母的強(qiáng)烈反對(duì)，保護(hù)機(jī)構(gòu)未能插手。

剝奪父母的監(jiān)護(hù)權(quán)是利是弊，暫不談?wù)?“國(guó)民的命運(yùn)，與其說(shuō)是操在掌權(quán)者手中，倒不如說(shuō)是握在母親的手中，因此，我們必須努力啟發(fā)母親—類人的教育者?！钡聡?guó)教育家福祿培爾的這句話或許能給我們帶來(lái)一些啟發(fā)。