真正實(shí)現(xiàn)你的童年夢(mèng)想

美國(guó)很多高校在資深教授退休前都會(huì)為他們安排講授一堂面向全校學(xué)生的“最后一課”，表達(dá)學(xué)校師生對(duì)其的崇敬和感激，讓教授為自己的教學(xué)生涯劃上一個(gè)完美的句號(hào)?？▋?nèi)基梅隆大學(xué)將其命名為“旅程 (Journey)”，希望演講者能和聽眾一起分享自己的個(gè)人或?qū)W術(shù)旅程。

蘭迪·弗雷德里克·波許 (Randy Frederick Pausch) 是美國(guó)卡內(nèi)基梅隆大學(xué)的計(jì)算機(jī)科學(xué)、人機(jī)交互及設(shè)計(jì)教授。2006年9月，他被診斷患有胰腺癌。盡管進(jìn)行了手術(shù)和化療，2007年8月他還是被告知癌細(xì)胞已經(jīng)轉(zhuǎn)移至肝臟及脾臟，至多可以再存活3到6個(gè)月。

你可能聽說過蘭迪·波許教授的“最后一課”，李開復(fù)在《引領(lǐng)你的一生》中對(duì)它有一段評(píng)價(jià)：“前不久，我的同學(xué)蘭迪·波許教授在我們的母?？▋?nèi)基·梅隆大學(xué)做了一場(chǎng)風(fēng)靡全美的講座，題目是《真正實(shí)現(xiàn)你的童年夢(mèng)想》。該講座的視頻在不同視頻網(wǎng)站上被點(diǎn)播了上千萬次。《華爾街日?qǐng)?bào)》把這次講座稱為‘一生難覓的最后的講座’。在美國(guó)一些高校里，‘最后的講座’是著名教授退休前的最后一課。蘭迪教授并沒有準(zhǔn)備退休，但是他患了胰腺癌，只剩下幾個(gè)月的生命。這次講座對(duì)他來說，竟真的是他一生中‘最后的講座’了。

我的親友紛紛在電子郵件中向我推薦蘭迪教授的此次講座。我和女兒一起看了講座的視頻。看完后，我們感動(dòng)地含著眼淚，同時(shí)又因?yàn)楦形蚝团d奮而相視一笑。我們像每一個(gè)聽過講座或看過講座視頻的人一樣，激動(dòng)的心情久久不能平息……”

為大家整理呈現(xiàn)的是蘭迪教授在奧普拉脫口秀上重新演講時(shí)留下的精簡(jiǎn)版本。2008年7月25日，蘭迪·波許教授在家中去世，終年47歲。之前他在卡內(nèi)基梅隆大學(xué) (Carnegie Mellon University) 的100多分鐘“最后一課”感動(dòng)了上千萬人。

So I am reprising① a talk that I gave in September at Carnegie Mellon University. It is an academic tradition called the last lecture. Hypothetically， if you knew you are going to die， you got one last lecture， what would you say to your students?

Well， for me， there is an elephant in the room. The elephant in the room that for me is not hypothetical②. I have been fighting pancreatic③ cancer. It is now coming back after surgery， chemotherapy and radiation. And the doctors are telling me there is nothing more to do and I have months to live. These are my most recent CT scans. The pancreatic cancer is spread to my liver and there are approximately a dozen tumors. I don’t like this. I have three little kids. Let’s be clear， this stinks. But I can not do anything about the fact that I am going to die. I am pursuing medical treatments， but I pretty much know how this movie is going to end. And I can not control the cards that are dealt， just how I play the hands. Now if I am not morose enough for you， I am sorry to disappoint. But I don’t choose to be an object of pity and in fact， although I am going to die soon， I am actually physically very strong. In fact， I am probably physically stronger than most of the people in this audience. (doing push ups).

So today’s talk is not about death， it is about life and how to live. Specifically about childhood dreams and about how you can try to achieve them—my childhood dreams， your childhood dreams.

As a child， I had an incredibly happy childhood. I went back and raided the photo album. I could not find any places I wasn’t smiling. Right? I just had a great childhood. . . and I was dreaming， always dreaming. It was an easy time to dream when you turned on your television set and men are landing on the moon—anything is possible and we should never lose that spirit. So what were my childhood dreams? Being in the National Football league. This is one of the childhood dreams I did not achieved. Alright? And it is very important to know that if you don’t achieve your dreams， you can still get a lot by trying for it. There is an expression I love—experience is what you get when you don’t get what you wanted. I played a little league football for a long time and I had a phenomenal coach， Coach Jim Graham and he was old school. When I was at practice， he rode me all practice. You know you are doing it wrong， go back and do it again， you are scuffing① off， you owe me push-ups…just for two hours， it was relentless②. And after practice， one of this assistance couches came up to me and he said: “yes， couch Graham rode you pretty hard”. I said Yeah. He said “that is a good thing. Because it means he cares. When you are doing a bad job and nobody points out to you， that’s when they’ve given up on you. ” And that is something really stuck with me， is that when someone is going to ride you for two hours， they are doing that because they care to make it better.

So next dream—Walt Disney Imagineering. When I was eight， my family took the pilgrimage③ to Disneyland in California and it was incredible experience. The rides， the shows， the attractions and everything . . . and I said “gosh， I’d like to make stuff like that when I get older”. So I graduated from college and I tried to become an imaginer. These are the people who make the magic. And I got a lovely rejection letter. And I tried again after graduate school and I’ve kept all the rejection letters over the years. They are very inspirational. But then the darnedest thing happened. You know I worked hard and worked hard and I became a junior faculty member and I specialized in doing certain kind of research. . . that’s me. . . and I developed a skill that was valuable to Disney and I got a chance to go there and I was part of the Imagineering team and we worked on something called magic carpet ride and it was incredibly cool. However， it took me over fifteen years to do it and lots of lots of tries and what I learnt from that is that the brick walls that are in our way are there for a reason. They are not there to keep us out， they are there to give us a way to show how much we want it.

If you are going to have childhood dreams， I recommend you have good parents. I lucked out I have great parents. This is my mother， on her 70’s birthday. I am the blur in the back， I have just been lapped. This is my father on his 80’s birthday. There is this notion of have fun all the time. Have a sense of fun and wonder that should never go away.

My dad， what an incredible guy! He fought in world war two. He was clearly part of the greatest generation. Sadly， my dad passed away a little over a year ago. And when my mother was going through his things that was when she discovered that in world war two， he was awarded the bronze star for a valor. In fifty years of marriage， it had just never come up. There is a real lesson in humility that I can learn from my father there.

Now my mother. Mothers are people who love you if when you pull their hair. And this was the kind of relationship I have with my mother. And my mother， speaking of humility， was always there to keep me in check. When I was going through graduate school， I was taking really hard examinations. I was home pretty much complaining and whining about how hard this PHD tests were， and she just patted my arm and said， we know how you feel. Just remember that when your father were your age， he was fighting the Germans in World War Two. And the day came when I got my PHD， I was so proud and my mother introduce me to everyone as—this is my son， he is a doctor but not the kind that helps people.

Probably the most wonderful thing my parents did was let me paint my bedroom. I said one day I want to paint stuff on the walls and they said OK. So I had a rocket ship and we lived in a ranch so I wanted an elevator. I wasn’t sure where it would go. . . and yeah， you can tell the nerds early so that was the quadratic equation①. But the great thing is that they let me do it. And they felt that letting me express my creativity was more important than the pristine nature of the walls. I was really blessed to have parents who saw it that way. My parents taught me about importance of people versus things. So when I got older， I bought my first car and I was so excited. I had this shiny convertible， these were my nephew and niece Christopher and Laura and every month i take them for a weekend. So my sister and her husband can give a little break. And we go off for adventures. And I was just showing off my new car and my sister explained to Chris and Laura—that is uncle Randy’s new car， you can’t get it dirty …and they were just cracking up laughing because over her shoulder I was casually open a can of soda and just emptying it on the back seat and they come running over and my sister said what are you doing? And I said it is a thing， it’s just a thing. I am really glad I did that because at the end of the weekend as I was driving them home， little Chris who was about eight at the time， had had the flu and he threw up all over the back seat of my car. And I don’t care how much value you get out of owning a nice shiny pristine thing. It’s not as good as I felt knowing that I made an eight year old boy not feel guilty just because he had the flu.

Next thing， you better decide early on if you are a tiger or an Eyesore. Tigers are energetic， optimistic. They are curious， they are enthusiastic and they have fun and never ever underestimate the importance of having fun. I am dying soon and I am choosing to have fun today， tomorrow and every other day I have left.

If you want to achieve your dreams， you better work and play well with others and that means you better live with integrity. Simple advice that you will find hard to follow—just tell the truth. Second thing， when you screw up， apologize. There are a lot of bad apologies in America. A good apology has three parts: I am sorry. It was my fault. How do I make it right? Most people skip that third part that is how you can tell sincerity.

The last thing is that we all have people that we don’t like， that have done things we don’t like. And what I have found is that no one is pure evil. If you wait long enough， they will show you their good side. You can not make them do it in a hurry， but you can be patient.

Show gratitude. When I got tenure as a young faculty member， there are about 15 young kids have been working in my research lab. I took them all down to the Disney world for a week on my nickel. One of my colleague said this must have cost you an arm and a leg. How could you do it? I said these kids just worked day and night for years so that I could get the best job in the world for life. How could I not do it? Gratitude is a very simple thing and it’s a very powerful thing.

And lastly， I don’t think complaining and whining really solves the problem. This is Jacky Robinson， first black major leaguer， had it in his contract not to complain if people spit on him. Alright， I don’t care if you are Jacky Robinson or if you are a guy like me who’s only got a couple of months to live， you can choose to take your finite time and energy and effort， and you can spend it complaining or you can spend it playing the game hard which is probably going to be more helpful to you in a long run.

Now I told you this is part of the lecture serials at Carnegie Mellon University and it is important for you to know why I gave this talk. The talk isn’t just about how to achieve your childhood dreams. It is much broader than that. It is about how to live your life. Because if you lead your life the right way， the karma will take care of itself. The dreams will come to you. If you live properly， the dreams will come to you. And I think it is great so many people have benefited from this lecture. But the truth of this matter is that I didn’t even really give it to the 400 people in the Carnegie Mellon who came. . . I only wrote this lecture for three people. And when they are older， they will watch it. Thank you. ?