溝通是送禮的最佳技巧

藍(lán)利霞

When it comes to the art of gift gifting， people sayits the thought that counts， but a little more thought thanusual can go a long way.

“Usually the best gift is when someone knowswhat you like and gives you something that they thinkyou will like because theyve noticed things about you，”said， Suzanne Degges-White， a licensed counselor andprofessor of Northern Illinois University.

Gifts tell us how we think people see us， and howwe think people perceive our relationship. And with aromantic partner especially in the early stages， we wantthe gift to be symbolic of how much someone idolizesus. When people have failed to do that and give ussomething totally mismatched， we feel that we haventbeen seen and feel like were not valued in the way thatwe want to be valued.

Its important to have honest conversations withthose with whom you have a long-term relationship toestablish what types of gifts you do and dont like. Sothe pattern doesnt repeat itself the next holiday season.“If the person is not a romantic partner or close friendor family member， keeping quiet and remembering thegift givers good intentions may be the best way to go，”Degges-White said.

Eckel， a content creator who gives advice to herfollowers on relationships， parenting and mental health，posted a video on TikTok on her advice with gifts.“Were humans， we have emotions， and certain scenariosare going to cause very normal emotions，” Eckel said.“Communicating your needs and wants with lovedones is important to keep strong relationships. In turn，listening and taking notes on any hints your loved onesmay provide for possible gifts throughout the year canhelp you to feel more prepared when the season comesback around.”

（材料出自CNN 網(wǎng)站，有刪改）

1. What will Degges-White agree on？

A. The gift should cost much money.

B. The gift should be carefully prepared.

C. Gift-givers should learn the art of gift gifting.

D. Gift-giver should notice what receivers are fond of.

2. What does the underline word “idolizes” mean in Paragraph 3？

A. Opts.B. Knows.

C. Loves. D. Surprises.

3. How can we get the right gift from family member？

A. To give them tips how to buy.

B. To make them become romantic.

C. To have an honest dialogue with them.

D. To give them money to buy what we like.

4. What can be inferred from the last paragraph？

A. Emotion plays a key role in preparing for a gift.

B. It is good to write down what your loved ones like.

C. People need to prepare for the gift for their love ones.

D. Communicating your needs can help you get the dear gift.

參考答案

1. D。解析：細(xì)節(jié)理解題。根據(jù)材料第二段中的“Usually the best gift is when someone knows whatyou like and gives you something that they think youwill like because theyve noticed things about you”，我們可知，最好的禮物通常是某人知道你喜歡什么，并送你一些他們認(rèn)為你會(huì)喜歡的東西，因?yàn)樗麄兞粢獾搅擞嘘P(guān)你的東西。故選D。

2. C。解析：詞義猜測題。根據(jù)材料第三段第二句中的“a romantic partner especially in the early stages”，我們可知，跟一個(gè)浪漫的伴侶在一起，人們會(huì)將所收到的禮物視為對方是否寵愛（idolizes）自己的象征。故選C。

3. C。解析：細(xì)節(jié)理解題。根據(jù)材料第四段第一句“Its important to have honest conversations withthose with whom you have a long-term relationship toestablish what types of gifts you do and dont like.”，我們可知，要想得到合心意的禮物，需要跟與你建立長期關(guān)系的人進(jìn)行交談，讓他們知道你喜歡什么和不喜歡什么。故選C。

4. B。解析：推理判斷題。根據(jù)材料最后一段的最后一句“In turn， listening and taking notes on anyhints your loved ones may provide for possible giftsthroughout the year can help you to feel more preparedwhen the season comes back around.”，我們可知，平時(shí)把心愛之人的暗示記下來，我們就能為送禮做更充分的準(zhǔn)備。故選B。