從彼鄉(xiāng)到此鄉(xiāng)的人生收獲

文/夏文彬 武宣妤

雅尼擔(dān)任藝術(shù)指導(dǎo)的杭州一幼兒園參加六一兒童節(jié)演出。Yani plays the piano on the Children’s Day at a kindergarten in Hangzhou.

眼前這位身材纖細(xì)、氣質(zhì)出眾的年輕媽媽，來(lái)自白俄羅斯。她說(shuō)著一口流利且字正腔圓的中國(guó)話，還有個(gè)很好聽(tīng)的中文名叫“蔡雅尼”。

雅尼有兩個(gè)孩子，其母語(yǔ)是漢語(yǔ)和俄語(yǔ)，因?yàn)檎Z(yǔ)言環(huán)境的關(guān)系，漢語(yǔ)對(duì)他們來(lái)說(shuō)更加熟悉，大的孩子已經(jīng)在杭州上小學(xué)了。當(dāng)被問(wèn)到對(duì)孩子的未來(lái)有什么期待時(shí)，雅尼說(shuō)：“希望他們?cè)趯W(xué)業(yè)之外，能找到一個(gè)屬于自己的興趣愛(ài)好，并且在任何情況下都保持耐心。這種耐心，是做人做事的一種態(tài)度，期望他們能不斷地去探索和發(fā)現(xiàn)一件事究竟能做到何種程度?！?/p>

而當(dāng)筆者和雅尼一起耐心地梳理過(guò)往的點(diǎn)滴回憶后，也得到了一個(gè)意外收獲。我們驚喜地發(fā)現(xiàn)，原來(lái)“耐心”不僅是雅尼教育孩子的關(guān)鍵詞，更是她從幼時(shí)開(kāi)始練習(xí)鋼琴到大學(xué)學(xué)習(xí)漢語(yǔ)，再到為愛(ài)奔赴選擇杭州定居一路走來(lái)的最好注腳。

無(wú)論是在年少時(shí)期堅(jiān)持藝術(shù)和語(yǔ)言學(xué)習(xí)的成長(zhǎng)之路上，還是成年成家后來(lái)到異國(guó)他鄉(xiāng)面對(duì)生活瑣碎時(shí)，豐富多彩的人生經(jīng)歷和跨文化交流經(jīng)驗(yàn)既鍛造了她的性格特質(zhì)—耐心，又使其始終保持著開(kāi)放、包容、平和的心態(tài)，去守護(hù)她愛(ài)的和愛(ài)她的人們，去發(fā)現(xiàn)身邊的美好，去熱愛(ài)共同給予自己充盈人生的兩個(gè)國(guó)度—白俄羅斯和中國(guó)。

與藝術(shù)、語(yǔ)言打交道，要耐心

白俄羅斯擁有豐富而獨(dú)特的藝術(shù)文化遺產(chǎn)，白俄羅斯民族創(chuàng)作出了許多優(yōu)秀的文學(xué)藝術(shù)作品。

雅尼的家鄉(xiāng)—維捷布斯克州首府維捷布斯克市，是位于白俄羅斯東北部、西德維納河河港的大型鐵路樞紐城市。維捷布斯克州自然資源豐富，保有白俄羅斯全國(guó)最大的森林分布。維捷布斯克市至今仍保留著12世紀(jì)的古建筑遺跡，城市中遍布著歷史博物館和數(shù)所高等院校，是白俄羅斯的藝術(shù)首府。

雅尼出生于一個(gè)藝術(shù)世家，受母親的熏陶和影響，她從7歲起開(kāi)始學(xué)習(xí)鋼琴。青春期時(shí)，她曾想放棄鋼琴學(xué)習(xí)而轉(zhuǎn)投其他興趣，但母親當(dāng)初的一句話至今仍令她印象深刻—“你應(yīng)該學(xué)經(jīng)典的東西”。鋼琴，是母親心中最為經(jīng)典的一門(mén)藝術(shù)，而經(jīng)典的東西都特別需要耐心。于是，雅尼將它堅(jiān)持了下來(lái)，直到現(xiàn)在。

2005年，她來(lái)到位于圣彼得堡的俄羅斯國(guó)立師范大學(xué)音樂(lè)學(xué)院留學(xué)。在雅尼看來(lái)，作為世界著名的藝術(shù)之都，圣彼得堡雖然城市規(guī)模龐大，但卻充滿濃厚的歷史感，還有許多城市公園，綠地人均占有率較高，建筑與自然和諧相融。

而與漢語(yǔ)、與丈夫、與杭州、與中國(guó)緣分的種子，就從她走進(jìn)大學(xué)校園之日起便被深深地種下了。當(dāng)時(shí)學(xué)校里有許多中國(guó)留學(xué)生，同樣作為外籍學(xué)生群體，他們時(shí)常有機(jī)會(huì)一起交流和學(xué)習(xí)，那也是雅尼第一次了解到漢字的奇妙，從此打開(kāi)了通向中文學(xué)習(xí)殿堂的一扇窗。

大三時(shí)，為了更好地學(xué)習(xí)中文，雅尼打聽(tīng)了各種渠道，最終報(bào)名了圣彼得堡國(guó)立大學(xué)東方語(yǔ)言系孔子學(xué)院。因?yàn)楦鱾€(gè)大學(xué)、各個(gè)學(xué)院分布在城市的不同區(qū)域，那些日子里，雅尼常常奔波于去學(xué)中文和去上其他課的路上，但用她自己的話說(shuō)，“坐地鐵的途中，剛好有了足夠的時(shí)間復(fù)習(xí)中文”。因?yàn)閷?duì)中文有濃厚的興趣與自身不懈的堅(jiān)持，雅尼的漢語(yǔ)水平進(jìn)步得很快，加之留學(xué)中國(guó)的浪潮正在興起，讓她萌發(fā)了去漢字的發(fā)源地走一走、看一看的想法。對(duì)于這個(gè)不斷發(fā)展繁榮的東方大國(guó)，她充滿著好奇與期待。

與愛(ài)情、婚姻打交道，要耐心

2009年，申請(qǐng)到獎(jiǎng)學(xué)金的她，來(lái)到哈爾濱師范大學(xué)繼續(xù)深造語(yǔ)言。2011年，雅尼被錄取為該校廣播電視藝術(shù)學(xué)研究生。

雅尼的中文水平在所有留學(xué)生中都是首屈一指的，因此被選為哈爾濱市代表，參加了2012年央視舉辦的“漢語(yǔ)橋”比賽。也正是那一契機(jī)，給了雅尼在央視語(yǔ)言節(jié)目“快樂(lè)漢語(yǔ)”中擔(dān)任一年外籍主持人的難得經(jīng)歷，并讓她邂逅了她的“真命天子”，一個(gè)文質(zhì)彬彬、溫文爾雅的中國(guó)男人。只不過(guò)，那時(shí)的兩人都還未意識(shí)到某種緣分會(huì)牽引著彼此在未來(lái)走向同一個(gè)地點(diǎn)。

雅尼擔(dān)任白俄羅斯專家翻譯協(xié)助采訪。Yani translates for a Russian expert.

雅尼帶孩子們來(lái)到杭州臨安山區(qū)，感受與白俄羅斯一樣的雪景。Yani plays in the snow with her children in the mountainous area in Lin’an district,Hangzhou city.

碩士畢業(yè)后，雅尼曾短暫地回到了圣彼得堡。當(dāng)時(shí)有很多好的工作機(jī)會(huì)都找上了她，但她始終覺(jué)得，中文是她熱愛(ài)的語(yǔ)言，中國(guó)的發(fā)展能提供個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)更多的可能性。下定決心后，2013年，雅尼順利地考入了中國(guó)傳媒大學(xué)，開(kāi)始攻讀博士學(xué)位。

馬克·夏加爾作品《城市上空》。Over the Town, a painting by Marc Chagall.

就在那一年，杭州的一個(gè)文化交流項(xiàng)目需要聯(lián)系白俄羅斯國(guó)家大劇院的聲樂(lè)家來(lái)演出，剛好輾轉(zhuǎn)找到了雅尼。于是，她第一次踏上了杭州這片土地，命運(yùn)的安排仿佛一下子把她和當(dāng)時(shí)還未成為丈夫的他“綁”在了一起。

后來(lái)，因?yàn)橐恍╉?xiàng)目合作的機(jī)緣，雅尼又多次來(lái)到杭州，而通過(guò)兩人一次次的相處，在往返于北京與杭州的雙向奔赴中，他們彼此逐漸確定了心意，堅(jiān)信對(duì)方就是自己要找的那個(gè)默契之人。

雅尼與丈夫于2015年結(jié)婚，并最終選擇在杭州定居。2016年，大寶順利降生；2017年，她完成了所有課程的學(xué)習(xí)，并獲得了博士學(xué)位；2019年，雅尼又生下了第二胎。其間，雅尼擔(dān)任過(guò)高校的俄語(yǔ)特聘教授、參與過(guò)許多與俄語(yǔ)文化有關(guān)的合作交流項(xiàng)目、在幼兒園當(dāng)過(guò)古典音樂(lè)課的藝術(shù)指導(dǎo)。如今在杭州已經(jīng)扎根7年了，雅尼正享受著作為妻子、作為媽媽的那份平淡而真實(shí)的幸福。

“緣分，真是妙不可言啊。”聽(tīng)到筆者這樣的感嘆，雅尼笑了。從這樣溫暖的笑容中似乎能看見(jiàn)，無(wú)論愛(ài)情還是婚姻，都需要一些耐心，如果能一直相信有美好的結(jié)局，即使相隔萬(wàn)里，即使跨越不同國(guó)度，也能等到屬于自己的緣分。

與生活打交道，同樣需要耐心

從圣彼得堡到哈爾濱再到北京最后來(lái)到杭州，雅尼的生活足跡一路自北向南。談到為何會(huì)選擇杭州時(shí)，雅尼坦言，面對(duì)全新的環(huán)境，也曾猶豫過(guò)，甚至和丈夫商量過(guò)要不要一起去北京發(fā)展。但是，有一個(gè)畫(huà)面讓她至今記憶猶新，現(xiàn)在回想起來(lái)，好像就是因?yàn)槟莻€(gè)細(xì)節(jié)，讓她毅然放棄在另一個(gè)城市建立起的基礎(chǔ)，勇敢地從零開(kāi)始。

“還記得，當(dāng)時(shí)我先生來(lái)機(jī)場(chǎng)接我，從高架下來(lái)后他便特地選了從北山街開(kāi)去靈隱。那是個(gè)夏天，道路兩旁高聳的法國(guó)梧桐樹(shù)郁郁蔥蔥，在眼前不斷掠過(guò)，而西湖的美景又近在眼前，我就在想，怎么會(huì)有一個(gè)城市這么富有詩(shī)意?！毖拍峄貞浾f(shuō)。對(duì)于去過(guò)很多城市的她來(lái)說(shuō)，那些千篇一律的城市并不缺“現(xiàn)代化”元素，越來(lái)越多的鋼筋水泥混凝土卻讓它們逐漸失去自身的獨(dú)特性，而杭州卻不同。在雅尼眼中，杭州真正做到了城市與山水的融合，帶給她從未有過(guò)的關(guān)于江南文化的美妙又靈動(dòng)的體驗(yàn)。

這種體驗(yàn)，不單來(lái)自對(duì)異文化的喜愛(ài)，更來(lái)自對(duì)故鄉(xiāng)、對(duì)青春的思念與懷念。雅尼說(shuō)，越是生活久了，越是發(fā)現(xiàn)，無(wú)論從綠意盎然的自然環(huán)境、城市與自然的結(jié)合、歷史文化與現(xiàn)代文明的融合，還是從精致的藝術(shù)創(chuàng)作、精細(xì)的生活服務(wù)來(lái)看，維捷布斯克、圣彼得堡以及杭州都有許多相似處和共通性，這些常常讓她倍感親切，并產(chǎn)生強(qiáng)烈的歸屬感?，F(xiàn)在，她還會(huì)時(shí)不時(shí)趁著接大兒子放學(xué)的空隙，帶著小兒子在西湖邊逛一圈，走在北山街上，欣賞著西湖波光粼粼的湖面，感受著山水帶來(lái)的深邃與平和，體會(huì)著時(shí)光的流轉(zhuǎn)與四季的變化，仿佛一切煩心事都隨風(fēng)散去了。

能發(fā)現(xiàn)生活中美好的人，通常都很有耐心。

到了周末或節(jié)日假期，雅尼喜歡帶著孩子們?nèi)ズ贾荽髣≡?、運(yùn)河大劇院欣賞芭蕾舞表演和交響樂(lè)演出，偶爾也會(huì)在茶館一泡就是一整天，有時(shí)還會(huì)和來(lái)自俄語(yǔ)圈的朋友們一起聚會(huì)。說(shuō)起美食，除了推薦白俄羅斯特色家常菜—紅菜湯、土豆餃子和薄餅之外，雅尼還特別提到，因?yàn)槭莾?nèi)陸國(guó)家，以前在家鄉(xiāng)很少能吃到新鮮的海鮮，對(duì)吃海鮮也沒(méi)什么興趣，但自從嫁給了丈夫來(lái)到了杭州，由于丈夫是溫州人，酷愛(ài)海鮮，雅尼的飲食習(xí)慣也隨之發(fā)生了改變。東臨東海的浙江，海產(chǎn)品資源豐富，種類繁多，舟山、寧波、臺(tái)州、溫州等各個(gè)地方都有不一樣的特色海產(chǎn)品和烹飪方法，今天的她似乎已經(jīng)不能想象，家里的餐桌上如果沒(méi)有海鮮將會(huì)變得多么無(wú)趣。一道蒸海鮮既是她的拿手菜，也是全家的最愛(ài)，更是生活中必不可少的樂(lè)趣。

雅尼的故鄉(xiāng)維捷布斯克是世界著名畫(huà)家、先鋒派代表人物馬克 · 夏加爾(Marc chagall,1887—1985年)的家鄉(xiāng)。雖然他年輕時(shí)便離開(kāi)了家鄉(xiāng)，移居到了法國(guó)巴黎，但夏加爾一生的創(chuàng)作都離不開(kāi)維捷布斯克的風(fēng)景以及在那里遇到的摯愛(ài)—貝拉（Bella）。比起夏加爾，雅尼要幸運(yùn)得多，因?yàn)樵谒齼?nèi)心的風(fēng)景畫(huà)中，不僅有年少記憶中的維捷布斯克，也有青春紀(jì)念冊(cè)中的圣彼得堡，更有如今作為理想安棲之所的杭州。從一個(gè)故鄉(xiāng)到另一個(gè)故鄉(xiāng)，她收獲了許多寶貴的人生財(cái)富，比如獨(dú)一份的跨國(guó)回憶、攜手同行的伴侶、延續(xù)希望的下一代，等等。當(dāng)然，其中也包括“耐心”—耐心地做好自己，從容地去適應(yīng)一切變化，不斷擴(kuò)展自身的深度、廣度和寬度，并從中發(fā)現(xiàn)樂(lè)趣。

Home Away from Home

By Xia Wenbin Wu Xuanyu

雅尼全家參加杭州國(guó)際家庭活動(dòng)。Yani’s family takes part in an international event in Hangzhou.

The slender, attractive young mother standing right here is from Belarus. She speaks fluent Chinese and even has a beautiful Chinese name, Cai Yani.

Yani, or Tatsiana Kamarova has two kids whose mother tongues are Chinese and Russian. Because of the environment they grow up in, Chinese is more familiar to them. The elder one is already in primary school in Hangzhou, East China’s Zhejiang province. When asked what she expects from her children in the future, Yani said: “I hope they will find a hobby outside of their studies and be patient no matter what. This kind of patience is an attitude of doing things, and I hope they can constantly explore and discover how deep and detailed something can be.”

It turns out that “patience” is not only the key word in Yani’s educating her kids, but also the best footnote in her journey from her childhood practicing piano to learning Chinese in college, and finally to her decision to settle down in Hangzhou for love.

The perseverance she showed on the path of learning art and language in her youth, the colorful life and the cross-cultural experience she has enjoyed after coming to a foreign country and establishing a family have not only forged her character —patience, but also made her always keep an open, inclusive and peaceful mind, to protect the people she loves and find the beauty around her. More importantly, they have also shaped her love for the two countries that together give her a full life — Belarus and China.

Belarus has a rich and unique art and culture heritage, and the Belarusian nation has created many excellent literary and artistic works.

Yani's hometown, Vitebsk city, the capital of Vitebsk Oblast(Region), is a large railway hub located in the northeastern part of Belarus along the Western Dvina River. Vitebsk Oblast is rich in natural resources and contains the country’s largest forests distribution. Architecture remains dating to the 12th-century can still be found in the city, which is dotted with history museums and universities. It is regarded as the “art capital” of Belarus.

Born into a family of art, Yani began to learn to play the piano at the age of seven, influenced by her mother. When she hit puberty, she considered giving up piano for other interests, but her mother’s words, which she still remembers today, dissuaded her:“You should study some classics.” And piano is believed by her mother to be the most classic form of art, which demands lots of patience. So Yani carried on, and still plays it now.

In 2005, she went to study at the Institute of Music, Theatre,and Choreography at the Herzen State Pedagogical University of Russia in St. Petersburg. To Yani, St. Petersburg is a worldrenowned art city, with a strong sense of history. There are many urban parks in the city, boasting a high per capita share of green space, where architecture and nature exist in harmony.

The seeds of her love for the Chinese language, for her husband, and for Hangzhou and China were planted from the day she entered the university. There were many Chinese students on campus at that time, and as a group of foreign students, they often went out and learned together. It was then that Yani had known the magic of Chinese characters.

In her junior year, to better learn Chinese, Yani enrolled in the Confucius Institute at the Institute of Oriental Studies of St.Petersburg State University. As her college and the institute sit in different parts of the city, Yani had to shuttle between studying Chinese and attending classes in those days, but, as she puts it,“there's just enough time on the subway to review my Chinese”.Yani's Chinese proficiency improved rapidly, and since many foreign students began to pursue their studies in China, she also developed the idea of visiting the birthplace of Chinese characters and having a look.

In 2009, she was admitted to Harbin Normal University to further her language studies and two years later she became a graduate student of the Broadcast & TV Arts program at the university.

Thanks to her top-notch Chinese language skills among foreign students, Yani was chosen to represent the city of Harbin and participate in the Chinese Bridge competition, a contest for foreign students to demonstrate their mastery of Chinese language and culture. It was because of the experience that Yani worked as a foreign anchor for CCTV, China’s national broadcaster, and met her future husband.

Yani returned to St. Petersburg and stayed there briefly.Although she had many good job offers, to Yani, Chinese is the language she loves and she believed China would be provide more possibilities for her personal growth. After careful consideration and preparation, in 2013, she successfully enrolled in the Communication University of China as a PhD student.

In that year, a cultural exchange project in Hangzhou needed to contact a vocalist from the Belarusian National Center for the Performing Arts, and Yani happened to be the link. So she set foot on the land of Hangzhou for the first time, and fate would have it that she and her future husband would be “tied” together from now on.

They got married in 2015 and eventually settled in Hangzhou.In 2016, their first child was born. In 2017, she received her doctoral degree. In 2019, Yani gave birth to the second child.During the period, Yani served as an adjunct professor of the Russian language in universities, participated in many cooperation and exchange programs related to Russian culture, and worked as the art director of classical music class in kindergarten. Now seven years into her stay in Hangzhou, she is enjoying being a wife and a mother.

In fact, Yani admitted that she had hesitated in the face of the new environment and even discussed with her husband whether to go to Beijing together. But one episode has made her determined to stay in Hangzhou. “I still remember that one time when my husband came to pick me up at the airport. He specially chose to drive to the Lingyin Temple via the Beishan Street. It was a summer day, and with the tall plane trees on both sides of the road passing by and the beautiful view of the West Lake in front of me,I wondered how a city could be so poetic,” Yani recalled.

The longer she stays in Hangzhou, the more she found that it has many similarities with Vitebsk and St. Petersburg,with the lush green environment, the combination of urban landscape with nature, the integration of history and culture with modern civilization, as well as the exquisite artistic creation and sophisticated life services. On weekends and holidays, Yani likes to take her children to ballet and symphony performances at the Hangzhou Grand Theater and Canal Grand Theater. Occasionally,she spends the whole day at a teahouse, hanging out with friends from the Russian-speaking community. Now, living in a coastal area, she has even fallen for seafood.

From Vitebsk to St. Petersburg, from St. Petersburg to Hangzhou, Yani lives in one hometown after another. She is also patiently staying true to herself and adapting to all changes with ease, finding joy in the process.