肢體語言的重要性

寧建權(quán)

研究表明，我們大部分的交流是通過非語言方式實(shí)現(xiàn)的。因此，學(xué)會(huì)更有效地使用和辨別身體語言可以幫助我們成為一個(gè)有效的溝通者。

難詞探意

1. discern /d··s·：n/ v. 辨明;分清

2. pitch /p·t·/ n. 音高

3. sway /swe·/ v. 搖擺;傾斜

4. indicator /··nd·ke·t·（r）/ n. 指示;標(biāo)志

5. dominate /·d·m·ne·t/ v. 支配;影響

Body language is a part of communication， which makes up most of what we use to communicate. It plays an important role in our daily life. Here are the reasons.

Paying attention to someones body language can help us discern when someone is not telling us the whole truth. Here are a few signs that someone might be lying. Often a person who is not telling the truth or all of the truth will not want to make eye contact for fear the eyes are the windows to their lying souls. However， there are also other signs of lying. A person who isnt telling the whole truth may clear their throat and change their pitch as if to try and sway your attention away from their lie. Additionally， putting their hand to their face， turning away or raising their shoulders may also be indicators that they are uncomfortable with the conversation because they are not telling the truth.

Another important function of body language is to express our feelings about what we are discussing. Body language can help us determine how someone feels about what they are saying.For example， a person may tell her boss that she would be happy to take the account but her body language might indicate that she is actually not at all happy about it.

Body language may be the determining factor in a job interview. If the applicants body language conveys that he is at ease with the subject matter and conveys confidence， he has a higher probability of getting the job， especially in this tough job market.

In a friendship， ones body language can indicate that someone is paying attention or doesnt really care about what the other person is saying. Leaning forward into the conversation indicates that this person is interested in hearing what the other person is saying. Leaning back would indicate that he was disinterested or felt superior. Leaning forward and standing close while talking may indicate that someone is aggressively trying to persuade the other person or trying to dominate the conversation. Listening to someone while not making eye contact indicates that you are not paying attention， but are waiting for your chance to speak. This gives your friend the feeling that you dont care about them and may cause them not to listen carefully to you when it is your turn to speak in the conversation.

Studies show that 70% of our communication is achieved nonverbally and that it is far more accurate than words. Therefore， it is important that we learn to use and discern body language more effectively to become an effective communicator.

Reading check

1. Which of the signs is an indicator that someone is lying·

A. Lowering shoulders.

B. Closing windows.

C. Putting hand on laps.

D. Avoid making eye contact.

2. How many benefits of body language are mentioned in the text·

A. Three.

B. Four.

C. Five.

D. Six.

3. What can we learn from paragraph 5·

A. It is polite to listen to someone while not making eye contact.

B. It is acceptable to dominate the conversation while talking with friends.

C. Leaning forward while listening shows the persons interest in the topic.

D. Leaning forward into the conversation shows the persons superiority.