How to Empower1 Your Friends to Be Their Best Self 如何讓你的朋友做最好的自己

Feeling empowered can be an amazing thing. Its what makes us feel positive and confident that we can achieve anything we set our mind to. Empowerment breeds self-respect and respect for others. The tricky part is how we become empowered. Sometimes its a life-changing event that gives us the push， or sometimes its having other people believe in us. Whichever the case may be， we encourage you to be that person who motivates， inspires， and believes in your friends. Be the confidant2 who is trustworthy， honest， and wants the best for them. Here are a few ways you can empower your friends to lift them up！

受到激勵(lì)是一件令人驚奇的事情。正是因?yàn)槿绱?，我們才覺得積極和自信，覺得可以實(shí)現(xiàn)我們定下的任何目標(biāo)。激勵(lì)能培養(yǎng)自尊和對他人的尊重。棘手的是我們?nèi)绾尾艜?huì)受到激勵(lì)。有時(shí)是一個(gè)改變生活的事件，有時(shí)是因?yàn)槠渌藢ξ覀兊男刨嚕沤o了我們力量。不管是哪種情況，我們都鼓勵(lì)你成為那種鼓舞、激勵(lì)和信任朋友的人。做一個(gè)值得信賴、誠實(shí)的知交密友吧，為他們爭取最好的東西。以下有一些方法可以激勵(lì)你的朋友使他們振作起來！

Give your time and attention

Theres no better way to show someone you care about them than giving your time and attention. Whether its a professional issue with their boss or personal issues with their partner， having an open ear is crucial. Hear them out， validate their concerns， weigh out their options， and above all， express confidence in their decision making. By genuinely3 giving your time and attention as well as focusing on whats best for them， youll make your friends feel appreciated.

給予你的時(shí)間和關(guān)注

再?zèng)]有比給予你的時(shí)間和關(guān)注更好的方式來顯示你關(guān)心某人了。無論是與老板之間的職場問題，還是與伴侶的私人問題，敞開心扉都是至關(guān)重要的。聽他們把話講完，確認(rèn)他們的擔(dān)憂，權(quán)衡他們的選擇，最重要的是，對他們的決定表示有信心。通過真誠地給予朋友你的時(shí)間和關(guān)注，以及專注于對他們好，你會(huì)讓你的朋友心存感激。

Make sure your advice is unbiased4

It can be hard to be supportive during times when your friends desires dont match yours. For instance， when our best friend wants to move away to pursue one of their dreams， it can be hard to encourage them to do so because we want them to stay， but we cant be the ones who hold them back. When they ask you whether or not they should do something that may affect you， look at the situation from an outside perspective. Is this something that is healthy for your friend and will make them happy？ Are they scared because it would mean a big change？ Be unbiased， supportive， and give your advice on whats best for your friends， not whats best for you.

確保你的建議是公正的

當(dāng)朋友的愿望與你的不符時(shí)，你很難給予他支持。例如，當(dāng)我們最好的朋友想離開去追求他們的夢想時(shí)，我們很難去鼓勵(lì)他們這樣做，因?yàn)槲覀兿Ｍ麄兞粝聛恚覀儾荒艹蔀樽璧K他們的人。當(dāng)他們問你，他們是否應(yīng)該做一些可能影響到你的事情時(shí)，你應(yīng)該從外人的角度來看待這種情況。這件事情對你的朋友是有益的嗎，會(huì)讓他們快樂嗎？他們害怕是因?yàn)檫@件事意味著巨大的變化嗎？你要不偏不倚，要支持他們，并給出對他們而言最好的、而不是對你自己最好的建議。

Tell them how you feel about them

In life， we often hold back saying what we think and feel about people. But to truly empower your friends， you need to tell them how they make you feel. Tell them when you miss them or that theyre amazing friends. Do it often， and especially on off days and not just when its expected， like on their birthday. Because the truth is， everyone wants to know how they make others feel and how they impact their lives. Its empowering to be honest and its empowering to know you matter to others.

告訴他們你對他們的感想

在生活中，我們經(jīng)常隱瞞自己對人的想法和感受。但要真正激勵(lì)你的朋友，你要告訴他們你的感受。要告訴他們你什么時(shí)候想念他們了或他們是了不起的朋友。要經(jīng)常這樣做，尤其是在休息日，而不僅僅只在他們期待的時(shí)候，比如生日的時(shí)候這樣做。因?yàn)槭聦?shí)是，每個(gè)人都想知道別人對他們是什么感覺，以及他們?nèi)绾斡绊懙絼e人的生活。誠實(shí)是一種力量，了解你對他人的重要性也是一種力量。

Celebrate their wins and losses

Celebrate them anyways. Maybe they finally found their passion or got a unique opportunity at work—be enthusiastic and excited when they tell you about it. This will encourage them to keep working on their goals and be proud of themselves when they accomplish them.

慶祝他們的得失

無論如何都要慶祝。也許他們最終找到了自己熱愛的東西，或者在工作中得到了一個(gè)特別的機(jī)會(huì)——當(dāng)他們告訴你這件事時(shí)，你要熱情而興奮。這將鼓勵(lì)他們繼續(xù)努力實(shí)現(xiàn)自己的目標(biāo)，并在實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)時(shí)為自己感到自豪。

Your friend who recently got cheated on or who lost their dream job may not see it as a time for celebrating， but its your job to show them the positives. The person who cheated on them was never meant to be their soulmate5， and when the door closes on a job it just means a better opportunity is right around the corner. Itll take time for them to realize they didnt lose as much as they thought they did， but with your help， they will soon start thinking positive and become empowered by their losses as well.

你的朋友最近被騙了，或者失去了他們夢想中的工作，這也許不是一個(gè)值得慶祝的時(shí)刻，但你的任務(wù)是向他們展示事情積極的一面。對他們不誠信的人就不是他們的知音，失去一個(gè)工作機(jī)會(huì)，意味著眼前會(huì)有更好的機(jī)會(huì)。他們需要時(shí)間去意識(shí)到他們并沒有像想象的那樣損失太多，但是在你的幫助下，他們很快就會(huì)開始積極思考，并因自己的損失而受到激勵(lì)。