怎樣融入中國生活？

By Nichole 譯 / 蔚然

怎樣融入中國生活？

How to get into life in China ?

By Nichole 譯 / 蔚然

外國人初到中國，有時(shí)會(huì)因?yàn)槲幕町惛械揭恍╇y以融入的尷尬

坐在一家高檔酒店的大廳里喝著茶，我感覺到自己滿臉通紅。

幾分鐘之前，同事剛剛把對(duì)面這位女士介紹給我認(rèn)識(shí)，之后同事離開了，只留下還不太相熟的我倆。

隨后，這位剛認(rèn)識(shí)不久的女士開始問了一連串的問題，讓我覺得我像是在接受審問。

眼前這位上海女士看起來非常端莊秀麗、單純無辜，她酷酷地坐在那里，問著一個(gè)接一個(gè)的私人問題，像是在進(jìn)行一場單方面的談話。

“你多大了？”

“你的工作能拿多少工資？”

“你丈夫是做什么的？”

“你喜歡泡吧嗎？”

她甚至還問到了關(guān)于我體重的問題，“你這么胖是因?yàn)楣ぷ鞯脑騿?？?/p>

聽到這個(gè)問題時(shí)，我在心里狠狠地揍了這位苗條的女士一拳。可表面上，我卻面帶微笑、泰然自若地、盡可能簡潔地回答了這個(gè)問題。

這并不是說我不愿告訴別人這些有關(guān)我個(gè)人的信息（實(shí)際上我是個(gè)相當(dāng)坦白的人），我只是覺得作為剛剛認(rèn)識(shí)的兩個(gè)人談?wù)撨@些私人問題有些為時(shí)過早。

談話的后半部分，我從回答問題的人變成了提出問題的人。

因?yàn)椴幌脒^于失禮，我只是嘗試問了對(duì)方有關(guān)家庭、孩子方面的問題。

這位女士立刻興奮起來，滔滔不絕地跟我講起她的家庭、她的工作，以及她在工作之余如何沒有時(shí)間玩樂。她甚至還跟我說她這么瘦是因?yàn)楣ぷ魈Χ鴰缀鯖]有時(shí)間吃飯。

大概一個(gè)小時(shí)之后，我們結(jié)束了“親密的交談”。那天晚上我想到這段談話時(shí)，突然意識(shí)到我的這位新朋友拉近陌生人距離的這種方式在中國其實(shí)是很常見的。

下面是其他一些讓外國人感到奇怪的、但中國人卻覺得很平常的事：

1.站著進(jìn)行面對(duì)面談話時(shí)，不要因?yàn)閷?duì)方（中國人）和你靠太近就往后退，這是不禮貌的。

2.在火車站或汽車站排隊(duì)的時(shí)候，如果被人推到或擠到也不要大驚小怪，更不要因?yàn)檫@個(gè)和別人吵起來。

3.如果你要指東西，要伸開整個(gè)手去指，而不要用食指。

4.開會(huì)或會(huì)面時(shí)要準(zhǔn)時(shí)或是早到，在中國守時(shí)是必須的。

Sitting halfway around the world in the lobby of an upscale hotel sipping tea, I felt my face turning beet red.

Only moments before, I had been formally introduced to the person facing me by a longtime colleague who then left so we could become acquainted.

However, from this newcomer's initial line of questioning, instead of being courted I felt like I was being grilled.

My new Shanghainese contact -- looking very demure and innocent -- sat there cool and collected as she dove into a onesided conversation, asking personal question after personal question∶

"How old are you?"

"What kind of salary does your job pay?"

"What does your husband do for a living?"

"Do you enjoy hanging out in bars?"

She even went so far as to bring up the subject of my weight, wanting to know, "Is it because of your work that you are a large woman?"

I mentally punched the woman in her thin stomach for that one. In real life, I rode out the inquisition with a fake smile pasted onmy face while I delivered my answers as tersely as possible.

It's not as if I hold any of this information near and dear to my heart (I am pretty much an open book), but I remember thinking the question/answer session seemed a bit premature given that we had just met.

But then the queries subsided and the tables turned.

Not wanting to be so brazen, I started tentatively by asking if my inquisitive conversation partner was married with children. She lit up, telling me all about her family and her job and her lack of time for after-work fun. She even told me she was too skinny because she was working so hard she hardly had time to eat.

We ended the hour feeling close. Then, as I went about my day, I thought about that conversation. I realized that the way my new friend held court was simply the Chinese way for finding common ground.

That said, following are some other ways in which things are done in China that might be surprising to the uninitiated American business traveler∶

1.When standing up while conducting a one-on-one conversation, don't back away simply because your Chinese counterpart seems a little too close for your comfort.

2.If you are lining up to wait for, say, a train or a bus, don't be surprised if you are shoved or pushed -- and don't get into a confrontation because of this.

3.If you want to point to something, use an open hand instead of using your index finger.

4.Be on time (or a little early) for a meeting. In China, punctuality is a must.

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